June 2016

Unconditional Positive Regard: Being Loved for Who You Are

Submitted by Mathijs Koenraadt on Mon, 06/06/2016 - 13:37

Conditional love promises the child love, but dangles it before its eyes like the carrot and stick before a donkey until it meets the right ‘conditions’. Conditional love threatens with “the withdrawal of love when [the child] does not obey”, a powerful weapon in the hands of parents to make the child exhibit desired behavior.[1]

The Repressed Past: Healing a Negative Self-Image

Submitted by Mathijs Koenraadt on Wed, 06/01/2016 - 13:11

“Experience is, for me, the highest authority. The touchstone of validity is my own experience. No other person’s ideas, and none of my own ideas, are as authoritative as my experience. It is to experience that I must return again and again, to discover a closer approximation to truth as it is in the process of becoming in me.”—Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person[1]